Perspective

I'm having a little bit of a bratty moment about our BAH rates being lowered.

First, I'm thinking, okay Liz calm down. What other employer offers housing as a standard part of the pay package? I mean, honestly.

But then again, what other employer expects the same sorts of things as Paul's does? Can you even put a monetary value on never knowing which Christmas he'll miss? Or on having to flip back and forth between being totally self-reliant and independent and then back to allowing him to feel like he is a vital part of the day-to-day functions of our family?

We were talking about this at book club last night and everyone at the table agrees that we can expect to see some more of the amazing benefits we currently enjoy go by the wayside. Like totally free healthcare. I will not be surprised to see co-pays start.

I go back and forth between feeling like we are owed all these extra things, and realizing that is ridiculous. We do not do this whole thing for the money. How gross. The point is, you cannot put a price on any of it. The benefits are not why he does what he does and they are not why I support him a thousand percent. $100 off of our BAH isn't going to make us throw up our hands and say it's just not worth it any more. Continuing this lifestyle is a choice that both of us have made and I can almost guarantee that when it is time for us to change, finances will not be the sole consideration.